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Holly Starley's avatar

Well, I’ll just say it now to make it official. Eleanor, my friend, you are one of my heroes. I am in love with your bad assery— which is on full display in this interview. And in everything you’re doing right now. I am proud to know you and in awe of your fierceness and determination and gorgeous mind.

Thank you for a fantastic interview from two fantastic women, Eleanor and Alisa!

Eleanor Anstruther's avatar

An honour to be part of your life, Holly. We are one. 🙌

Alisa Kennedy Jones's avatar

Aww... Huzzah, Holly! ❤️🔥👑

Richard Donnelly's avatar

"shaking off of shackles turns some men into whining babies" We were always whining babies : )

Holly Starley's avatar

🤣

Susan Campbell's avatar

A home in France and a horse? Dream living to be sure. Loved reading this questionnaire and so excited to read your books. Congrats on the latest one! ✨

Eleanor Anstruther's avatar

Thank you, Susan 😊📚

Good Humor by CK Steefel's avatar

A home in France sounds lovely. A place to be thoughtful and answer Alisa's wonderful Empress questions.

Alisa Kennedy Jones's avatar

A thoughtful spot in France is always a good idea! 🇫🇷 🏰 ❤️

Good Humor by CK Steefel's avatar

Sometimes I just look online at mini chateaus for sale and dream. Some are actually reasonable!

Alisa Kennedy Jones's avatar

Oh, French real estate is completely my porn! Especially the affordable properties in the Luberon and Southwest--I used to take the girls there when they were littles.

The Midst's avatar

The honesty of this stage of life. Yes, please! We love it, too. So much.

Eleanor Anstruther's avatar

It's the best thing that ever happened to me 💃🏻. What blessed relief .

Alisa Kennedy Jones's avatar

Fuck-yeah! Whisper-shouts the recovering people-pleaser 😂

The Midst's avatar

Step one: Getting the words out there.

Step two: Get louder. 😅

Teyani Whitman's avatar

She is a shooting star of spectacular insights.

Kimberly Warner's avatar

This intro—so spot on. And Eleanor’s passionate delivery, an inspiration. I want to see her knowing gaze plastered all over buses and trains and Times Square marquees, staring down the patriarchy until they wet their pants, while simultaneously giving all the women a good nudge and a “go on then, you can do it too.”

Alisa Kennedy Jones's avatar

Right??? I see her gaze EVERYWHERE! The patriarchy is SO going to need nappies!

Alicia Dara's avatar

So much great stuff in this profile! "Menopause is one crazy rush of inflammation" is 100% true, and I'm glad that she said the "get off sugar and alcohol" part out loud. In my own perimenopausal community I've seen a huge difference between those who have done this and those who haven't, and the latter are having far more physical/mental challenges. Can't wait to read her new book, it sounds aces!

Eleanor Anstruther's avatar

It felt like pure luck that I stumbled into it at exactly the right time. I too see the increased struggle of those who haven't. It's such a simple hack when you think about it. And it doesn't have to be forever.

Alisa Kennedy Jones's avatar

I did the whole anti-inflammation diet and have cut alcohol almost entirely out of my diet, and it's made such a difference in how I sleep and feel Every. Day. I only realized in my late 40s how much sleep I actually need to be a good human. 😂

Gail Forrest's avatar

what meter do you jump?

Eleanor Anstruther's avatar

Hmm, not sure, but I've jumped pretty big in my time. I used to hunt (social/political/ethical arguments aside) it was pretty wild and there was no knowing what enormous hedge was coming up. I show jumped too, when I was younger, small competitions but big fences. These days I take it easy. I took the shoes off my horse last year, we're now barefoot and a 100% the better for it. He feels like a whole horse now.

Gail Forrest's avatar

I rode and showed for 40 years but now horse-less. Miss it every day but can't risk a fall at this point. Sounds like you and your horse have a lovely relationship. They are the best life has to offer.

Eleanor Anstruther's avatar

They are the best. I love him deeply.

Alisa Kennedy Jones's avatar

I don't know, Eleanor, are you a jumper??? Or do you ride like the wind? I grabbed that photo as a placeholder, just considering how over-the-top we all get during book launches... :)

Eleanor Anstruther's avatar

Yes! And ride like the wind! My boy Tommy is an absurd mix of humour and wild. We call him The Glint.

Alisa Kennedy Jones's avatar

The Glint is WONDERFUL.

Susan Campbell's avatar

#4! The paragraph about women's bodies and who they belong to. Yes to everything you are saying!! I'm sending it to my 18 year old daughter and copying for myself as a manifesto. Thank you! And many congrats on your new book! ☺️✨

Alisa Kennedy Jones's avatar

100%. I want both my daughters to feel this sense of self-sovereignty!

Susan Campbell's avatar

Exactly!!

Eleanor Anstruther's avatar

Whoop whoop! And thanks.