I actually believe that inviting men to talk about thier own experiences (in my house we call it, "MAN-opause") is part of the solution for all of us. While their shit may be less intense than ours, they're still going through it. Science gave them Viagra and said, "Via con dios, dudes!" but that's not the whole health story for midlife men, and they deserve to know all of it, just as we do for ourselves. If we as a culture can talk more frankly about all of this it will help reduce the stigmatization of older women.
I know. It's a tough spot. We all need better coverage, subsidies, and more skilled providers overall--because there are way too many care deserts for our particular demo. xo
I actually believe that inviting men to talk about thier own experiences (in my house we call it, "MAN-opause") is part of the solution for all of us. While their shit may be less intense than ours, they're still going through it. Science gave them Viagra and said, "Via con dios, dudes!" but that's not the whole health story for midlife men, and they deserve to know all of it, just as we do for ourselves. If we as a culture can talk more frankly about all of this it will help reduce the stigmatization of older women.
Agree 100%... there' s so much more to the conversation between couples and cultures in terms of how we relate and treat each other.
I so wish you'd read my memoir that's up here: "the good, the bad, the foolish"--and what you've written here is so on the mark.
I'm going to have to read it! So much of what I experienced has been echoed by other women and I found your Cinderella tale so powerful!
Wait. Women still want sex after menopause? I’m 42 and under the impression that I have about 10 years left on wanting sex. Have I been mislead?
Bahahaha!
Great piece. I will just add that many medications cause ED for men as well. They are stuck between a rock and a soft place. Hehe. Or not hehe.
Love Dr. Bartos but she is pricey. I guess wealthy women and men can get the help they need.
I know. It's a tough spot. We all need better coverage, subsidies, and more skilled providers overall--because there are way too many care deserts for our particular demo. xo